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Firstly sorry for a bit of a disappearing act recently, as stated the App has taken up so much of my time and the book has shot up in sales with Amazon and certain shops now stocking it.Everything has taken off in the last year or so and it is hard work keeping up and I have to cut back on certain things.
I would also love people to watch a film that had a big effect on me after my recovery and just shows the importance of a calm mind.
The link is here and it is over a few episodes and around 3 hours long altogether, but do try and watch it, it is very inspiring and a real eye opener. v=L_z Dtd Yu3m A Paul New Anxietynomore App more information about my book ‘At last a life’ visit more help with anxiety visit Follow me on Twitter This entry was posted on Wednesday, March 7th, 2012 at pm and is filed under Obsessive thoughts.
All this mental planning was constant and it could be a simple trip out with friends or going round to a family gathering, I was obsessed how I as coming across and how things were going, then filling myself with negative thoughts about how bad my life was and how it was not fair that others could enjoy themselves and not me, more thoughts on how to fix it, my mind just never switched off.
How I over came this was to say to myself that this was the last time I went over something that had happened and the last time I planned for something that was up and coming and more than that I would not entertain another negative thought.
I still went out as much as before, but instead of getting drunk I would just stick to 4 pints.
Again it is not an over night thing but the above really helped me on my way to who I am now.
People may have different experiences but the root to cure is the same, I will give you my own example which stemmed really from a fear of losing the people around me that were close to me; My main problem was that I would keep jumping back to something that happened last week and how I felt, this would mainly be negative thinking like ‘That night out with friends last Tuesday did not go well at all, next week I will try harder to fit in and come across as normal’.
So then I would be looking into this coming Tuesday and building up to what to do to make sure it went better this week, so as to make sure I did not ramble through and come across as odd, what I had to do was do this or that and I would then go with a bunch of mental instructions and the night would again be a disaster as I would not be joining in, I would be mentally trying to fix myself and remind myself what to do.
I was sure there was a secret out there that just needed discovering.
It was then that I realised that I did not need to figure my way back to a calm mind, I just had to stop going over my past experiences and stop peering into my future experiences.
When we are anxious then our body works over time and the reason we may sweat or feel restless and unable to sit still, with this comes an over active mind that seems to start on one subject then jump to another with little rhyme or reason.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating