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I get quite a few emails from people struggling to handle the situation where the person they’re dating is still active online.I hear from more women on this topic and some of those women don’t always understand my position: that if they’re not in an “exclusive” relationship, I don’t think the man is doing anything wrong.

So you’ve been dating one special person for a few months now, but haven’t had the courage to have “the talk” about exclusivity. If he or she shakes at the thought of labels and won’t define your relationship as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend,” it’s a red sign that your relationship just hasn’t become exclusive yet and they might be keeping other options open. Why bother looking for someone else when you’re clearly off the market and you’ve won the prize? If someone wants to make the relationship exclusive, they won’t be logging on while you’re asleep to stare at emails and photos of others. When someone wants to date others, they’ll leave one of the weekend nights available.

While some people make their intentions known and agree to becoming exclusive at a certain point, others go with the flow with the hope that they’ll become his or her one and only, even before becoming Facebook official. When someone is really into you and has made you their steady squeeze, they won’t be hiding you and will be proud to show you off. When your significant other stops introducing you as just a friend and it’s replaced with BF or GF publicly, chances are you’re the one-and-only. When you’re excited about being together every weekend, you should know that you’re the one-and-only. You’ve whispered those three special words of “I love you” to each other. If he’s playing the field, all the ladies will know it’s his birthday and will want to be by his side. Not every day is filled with hearts, bells, and whistles. From a toothbrush to an extra set of panties and makeup, when your sweetie carves out a place in his closet or bathroom for you and vice versa, you’ll know it’s serious.

Want to have the talk in person instead of an email? And remember: the goal at this point isn’t to win some kind of fight where at the end you’re in a committed relationship.

The Know When it’s Time to Move On Some people will take this approach and will find it works great: they’re in an exclusive relationship now and his/her profile came down off the dating site.

You can recover from this, but it’s is hard to do…so try to avoid putting yourself in a position where you need to recover!

The truth is, most of the people I hear from should approach the person they’re dating the way they approach me.

Let me say this though: the point isn’t to be able to write an email like this. The point isn’t that you’d write an email like mine.

The point is to recognize that you’ll apply those four areas (honesty, caring, understanding and patience) to your approach. The point is that you’ll be intentional about how you approach them.

I get some great emails from people that lay out their feelings, what they hope for, and describe how confusing things are for them. Instead they’re open, honest and they just want to understand.

A lot of times I want to say to these people, “You just need to forward this email to the guy you’re dating!

This conversation sends the message that the past will stay in the past and you’ve moved on.

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