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In the field of linguistics, a language may have numerous dialects or variations.
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" I inquired."Well, the second one went wrong from the very beginning. I really thought we loved each other, but the honeymoon was a disaster, and we never recovered. It was as if her one goal in life was to have a baby, and after the baby, she no longer needed me.""Did you tell her that? She said I should be more understanding and help her more. I really thought we knew what we were doing, and I thought that perhaps for the first time I really knew what it meant to love someone. But a few months after marriage, she started complaining; about petty things at first—like my not taking the garbage out or not hanging up my clothes. She was one of the most positive people I have ever met—that's one of the things that attracted me to her. Everything I did was wonderful, but once we were married, it seemed I could do nothing right. Eventually, I lost my love for her and began to resent her. We agreed there was no benefit to our living together any longer, so we split."That was a year ago.
I really tried, but it didn't seem to make any difference. After a while, there was no love left, just deadness. I genuinely felt that she loved me."After the wedding, I don't think I changed. Later, she went to attacking my character, telling me she didn't feel she could trust me, accusing me of not being faithful to her. So my question is, What happens to love after the wedding? Is that why we have so many divorces in our country?
The problem is that we have overlooked one fundamental truth: People speak different love languages.
My academic training is in the area of anthropology."Well," he said, "I've been married three times, and each time, it was wonderful before we got married, but somehow after the wedding it all fell apart. But after the marriage, it was a battle from the beginning."In my first marriage, we had three or four good years before the baby came.All the love I thought I had for her and the love she seemed to have for me evaporated. I operate a successful business, but I don't understand it.""How long were you married? The second time, we were married three years, and the last one, almost six years.""Did your love evaporate immediately after the wedding, or was it a gradual loss? After the baby was born, I felt like she gave her attention to the baby and I no longer mattered. She said I did not understand the stress of being a twenty-four-hour nurse.Perhaps she was looking for love in his behavior and didn't see it. We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.My conclusion after many years of marriage counseling is that there are five emotional love languages—five ways that people speak and understand emotional love.We are expressing our love, but the message does not come through because we are speaking what, to them, is a foreign language.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating